We were at my daughter and son’s annual eye exam and so the eye doctor let my young daughter go first and then afterwards said to my son, 12 at the time, “Ethan are you ready for your eye test?” Ethan replied, “Yes sir, Doctor.” I could see a little fearful look come over his face. All my son held onto was the word “TEST”.
As the doctor dimmed the lights and began visiting with me, I noticed something. Ethan was staring straight ahead toward the eye chart being very quiet. I MARVELED as I knew his amazing little mind was thinking deep. Then I watched!
A few minutes passed and the doctor says, “Ok, Ethan tell me what the letters are on the wall.” I watched as Ethan CLOSED his eyes tightly and began, “E F P T O Z”…oh, no! I then noticed the eye doctor had no clue what was going on so I gently said, “Uh, Doctor, well Ethan has his eyes closed.”
The doctor put his head down toward Ethan since the lights were dimmed and said, “Well, Ethan I need you to open your eyes and then read the chart.” I smiled and laughed inside as the doctor looked my way and smiled too. Ethan lit up and said, “Oh Ok!” He immediately became so excited to be in this big patient chair and passed his eye exam with an A+ and a lollipop.
Children with autism look at the world so literally. I call these moments “priceless moments”. My son only held onto the word “test” and decided he better sit quietly as he stared straight ahead and memorized every line. Then when the time came, he closed his eyes with an effort to show the doctor his amazing memorization skills NOT REALIZING he needed to read for his eye exam!
These are the kind of uplifting stories you can find in my new book: Marvel in your Autistic Eyes, Character lessons from my Son
Do you feel yourself dragged down and cannot understand why you may have been dealt this blow in your life? I have been there too. The best thing you can do is remove yourself from negative social media sites (only complaining about how terrible their child with autism is) and other people who pull you down.
You want positive results for your child with autism? Begin surrounding yourself with positive people who will lift you up ( cheer you on!). Positive attitudes = positive results in your child’s behavior and ultimately their amazing lives. Listen, your child wants to mimic you – do they act bad all the time? Then it might be time to look into the mirror. It is a hard pill to swallow, but their is such beauty that can be found in the lives of children with autism. Be their positive advocate!!!
Then, grab a notepad and capture your own “priceless moments” that will make you laugh when some days you only want to cry! You can do it! You are being prayed for!